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I'm often asked why I love the work I do so much.

I know with every fiber of my being that they are created by a loving source who truly wants the best for them.  


I love supporting my clients in seeing how unique and precious they are and helping them access their true Selves. 


I find it extremely rewarding to support people who want to create a life that not only works, but feels inspiring and is filled with love. 


Guiding you in seeing your true Self and Living Your Life in Love is one of my favorite things to do. That’s why I call my work Living Your Life in Love

A few words about me.

Kimi Avary

I think it’s important that you know a little more about me before we have our first meeting on Zoom. 

I hope that by getting to know me and the way I function a little better, it will reduce any anxiety you may have about starting coaching. 

I’m all about love. I always have been. I started studying NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) in 1995 because I saw how it could help people create the lives they truly wanted. I continued at the University of Arizona where I got my Bachelors in Family Studies and Human Development. I went on to Pacifica Graduate Institute where I received my Masters in Counseling Psychology.  

All of these things helped me create a better life, but they didn’t help me solve the mystery of why I couldn’t make a relationship work. I didn’t know how. Most people don't!

My role models were not up to the task of modeling great relationships. Were yours?

I went through immense heartbreak over and over again as I tried to find the right person.

I even went to not one, but 2 weddings of men I was deeply in love with and watched them marry other women. I was their buddy… not the woman they wanted to marry! 

I was hurt, frustrated, and confused. I wondered what was wrong with me?!?! Have you ever wondered that? 

Then, in 2004, I took a course that changed every preconceived notion I had about relationships. It gave me a new perspective that I’d never considered.

I learned that men and women are so different that we’d be better off if we actually spoke different languages because then we wouldn’t think we were communicating. 

Understanding this helped me meet and marry my husband and STAY married! It healed my relationship with my father. It helped me find the peace I was always hoping for. It helped me transcend my instinctual responses and choose to love. 

Relationships are not for the faint of heart!

Like every marriage, mine hasn’t always been easy. Learning to navigate life with another person has its challenges, and opportunities for growth. Lots of growth! 

I learned how to be a good partner. I learned how to be a step-mother. I learned how to be accepting of our differences and embrace our partnership.  

I created my practice with this in mind, so that in this space, you can feel safe, loved, and supported in every session.

I started my coaching practice in 1995. In 2006 I started focusing on supporting my clients with their relationships by helping them navigate the masculine and feminine dynamic because it’s the root of so much heartache and pain.

In recent years, I have continued to enrich my practice and I aim to help my clients as best I can by supporting them to create divine relationships with themselves and others.

Is Coaching Right for Me? 

  • You have thought to yourself that you can't go through another heartbreak.

  • You have one, or more, past relationships that hurt when you think about them.

  • You want to meet your life partner but are afraid of being hurt again. 

  • You dream of the perfect relationship but are too afraid to put yourself "out there."

  • You feel angry, hurt or bitter about love.

  • You are ready to take action and find another way to be in relationship. 

  • You want to learn how to express what is important to you effectively. 

  • You are tired of losing precious time and are ready to learn how to navigate relationships.

  • You want to spend more time living your life in love in the present moment instead of worrying about the future.

  • If you answered Yes to one or more of these,

    Schedule Your Complimentary Consultation Now! 

    REAL RESULTS FROM REAL PEOPLE 

    I learned that Criticism NEVER Works 

    “The love of my life and I got married in January and by March we were fighting so horribly and so much that I was getting ready to walk away. I’d been married twice before and I didn’t want that. I couldn’t imagine losing my soulmate, but the things we were saying to each other was unbearable. My friend referred me to Kimi, and I started working with her immediately. I had to know how to make it work. I started understanding how men operate and the coaching helped me learn to work with his energy. I also worked on me. I had to learn not be critical of him for showing me sides of him that I didn’t like. I’ve learned that criticism NEVER works in relationships. Instead I started asking for what I wanted. It’s been amazing! We made it through the first year and it’s getting better every day! I can’t thank you enough.”


    ~ S. E. Tucson, Arizona, VIP Coaching Client

    Singles Coaching

    “The program for singles has been highly instrumental in assisting me with dating as a forty plus woman. Times have changed but the rules for men and women have not: Kimi has been very helpfully enabled me to understand the realities that still separate us, as well as, allowed me to brilliantly navigate the relationship I have forged with my new boyfriend. We have the basis for respect, love, and I owe the fabulous essence of this to Kimi!”


    ~ V. H., Vancouver, WA, VIP Coaching Client ~ Engaged

    We Healed Our Pasts 

    “When we moved in together, I knew Mark was the one, but three years later, he hadn’t popped the question. I’d even said I didn’t want to move in unless we were headed in that direction. The more upset I was getting the more Mark pulled away, and I was ready to walk away. I was 36 and I wanted a family. That’s when I started working with Kimi. She helped me to find a place in myself where I felt confident instead of depressed about the situation. Mark could see a difference and he asked what I was doing. He was impressed, so he joined the sessions too. What we learned about how different we are helped us learn to bring out the best in each other. She helped us get rid of the baggage we both had and we got on the same page! We got married last year and just had our first baby! I’m so grateful that I met Kimi! I didn’t want to lose Mark!”


    ~ K. S. Sunnyvale, California, VIP Coaching Client (their boys are 8 and 10 now)

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